Friday, January 3, 2014

Why I'm Not A Fan Of Resolutions


It's 2014... twenty-fourteen... two thousand and fourteen... two zero one four... that ish cray. Seriously.

I'm actually BLOGGING for once (I've kind of been MIA for too long, but I'm working on it), so I'm definitely going to link-up with my homegirl Whitney for a little #backthatazzup action. I've been listening to Queen Bey's album non-stop since it was released and this is one of my favorite songs off the surprise album.

Flawless (Feat. Chimamanda Ngozi Adiche) by BEYONCÉ on Grooveshark

Every January 1st is the beginning of a new/fresh year, and every new year brings tons of "resolutions".
I'm going to put it out there - I'm not a fan of resolutions.

The idea of making positive changes in your life to better yourself, or better the lives of your loved ones, is fantastic. Really. I just don't like that it's something that can only be 'done' or 'started' on the first day of a new year. I'm not a fan of the idea of people waiting until a specific date to make changes. If you want to change something, just do it. Don't wait for January st, or Monday, or some other significant day/date/occasion.

Change is an important part of life. If you're not changing, then you're not progressing - it's as simple as that. Don't wait for that specific 'date' to make positive changes in your life. Make those changes today - no excuses.

I've been seeing a lot of resolutions on facebook, twitter, instagram, etc. and these are the top five resolutions that I've seen people post about:

  • Lose Weight.

  • Quit Smoking.

  • Spend More Time With Loved Ones.

  • Become More Organized.

  • Work Less & Enjoy Life More.

Honestly, these are all GREAT and POSITIVE changes and I support them 100000%. I just don't support that it takes the beginning of a New Year to make this change. If you're making a change because it's a New Year, then you're not changing for the right reasons - and you more than likely won't be successful with your change.
Realistically, you will revert to your old ways within a month, two months, or maybe even six months.

I'm not trying to be a Debbie Downer over here, because like I said - CHANGE IS GREAT...
But you have to want to change for YOU, otherwise it won't stick.

I made resolutions every year of my life until about 2 years ago. I noticed that I never stuck with the things I said I was going to do/change/work on. I never made it past March/April January before I quit whatever I was changing. It wasn't until I realized that nothing in my life was going to progress or be different unless I actually wanted to change... for ME. Not for my family, friends, future husband, work, whatever, and definitely not because I felt like it was necessary because it was a New Year. When I realized that I needed to change for ME, I found success.

If you're someone who has made resolutions this year, I wish you the best of luck and I truly hope you can implement these positive changes in your life and keep them around all year long.

However, despite everything I just said - I witnessed something interesting yesterday. I witnessed a hipster take 60 seconds to find a way to actually lower his body into the seat beside me on the bus. It took this long because his jeans were so tight that the knees wouldn't bend and the waist probably felt like it was going to rip open. But he did it, he was successful, and I felt absolutely awful when I pulled the bell three stops later to get off the bus and he had to stand up to let me off. Yeah, he should probably just go ahead and give up being a hipster (or at least give up wearing tight pants) for his New Year's Resolution. That;s a resolution that I could definitely get behind.


Kirsty W said...

I agree with you, mostly, too often people's make the resolutions because they feel obliged to make New Years resolutions, I think the only changes you stick with are, like you said, the ones you make because you want to, and not because you feel obliged. However, I think sometimes New Years does act a gentle prod for some people making them examine what changes they may need to make?

Also that hipster story made me laugh!!!! Why would you wear something that awkward!!!!

The Pink Growl said...

No more tight hipster pants, I'm on board with that!

Jay T said...

THOSE PANTS NEED TO NOT EXIST. In 2011 I gave up soda and I made it ALL THE WAY TO OCTOBER 1 before I had any. Not just Diet Coke, ALL EFFING SODA. never again, my friend, never again.

Amanda Louise said...

As a bus rider in a city full of hipsters, that story made me laugh. I agree with you that people should be ready to make changes anytime, not just on Jan. 1. That said, I'm more of the school that a baby step in the right direction is a victory, so if it takes flipping the calendar page to be brave enough to try something new, go for it. What makes me made more than people starting simply out of tradition is the attitude that one small failure means it's time to give up. I wish we could figure out a way to all believe it's okay to fail!

shannon said...


i wonder what type of resolutions hipsters would have.